The Kindness of a Stranger

I had to admit that at times,  I am a skeptic. I am skeptical about certain things and sometimes not even realizing it. I don’t always believe what other say, for instance, when I am listening in class to a professor. I listened, but I certainly have my opinions and questioned whether the fact made sense and if they didn’t then I simply stood my ground.

Yesterday was a Friday. I am hoping that one of my friend would invited me to play tennis with him. Since we both sort of threw that in the air, but both did not took the initiative. Anyway, from a week of work and taking classes, I felt asleep at around 10 pm, didn’t take shower nor even brushed my teeth (which rarely happens). I went to bed and woke up again at 4 am until falling to sleep again to wake up at around 10 am. I showered, washed my hair, blow dried it, and get dressed. I walked downstairs to make breakfast and lunch. I ate and knew that I had to go buy grocery as well as buy a book for a class I am taking in the summer.

I went to Sprout Farmer Market, which is a nice grocery store that is full of stuffs I like, it has varieties. I was choosing cilantro, and other ingratiates to make salad for the upcoming week. Then I saw a sign, “5/1 dollar Sweet Corns,” I like corn on my salad, so I decided to give it a look and choose the best corn kernel. All of a sudden, a lady around early 70 years old came and complimented my shoes and asked where had I got them from. I told her “I think I got them from Sperry.” We began our conversation that way, which I am not sure if she really liked my shoes or simply wanted a conversation. I think she really like my shoes as she continued asking where she could find them. Afterwards, she began to help me picked out corns and gave me tricks on how to choose the best corn. That’s why I titled this story “The Kindness of a Stranger.” I don’t even know her name. All I know is that this lady was kind.

Another story when I encountered another an example of kindness is the fact that my friend, I am not entirely sure if we’re “friend” quite yet, but anyway, we’re not getting into such topic. Anyway, right around 9 pm today, I was getting hungry right after my nap. I went down stairs to make a tuna sandwich. As I gather the ingredients on the kitchen counter. I started chopping celeries and bell peppers into tiny pieces, all of a sudden I received a phone call, which I thought was a FaceTime call from my sister, but when I was began to answer, I saw that it was a phone call and not a FaceTime call from my family. It was quite interesting that I received a call from someone at 9 pm. I answered, realizing that it was a male voice that I was not familiar, he kept taking, suggesting that we go get an ice-cream. I was hesitant: first, I don’t eat diary except eggs, second, I am in a middle of prepping food, and third and lastly, it is late. All of the above was the reasons why I said, “….maybe later, but thanks for inviting me,” and hung up. Anyway, I might disappointed the guy, but I had to stood my ground, I had my reasons. However, I still think it was kind of him to invite me to get ice-cream with him. He also said in the phone conversation to “don’t think too much about it.” Well, I am the way I am.

Anyways, these are story of when I encountered kindness. There are also times when this friend of mine offered to help me move my stuff into the apartment or when I asked him if he could help me picked up the elliptical and a keyboard at a lady house because he has a truck and strength. I genuinely do appreciate his help, but I don’t know if the guy is being nice just to be nice (the person he is) or if he has other intentions. Regardless, of the the reasons, I still appreciate people kindness when I didn’t expected them to be.

My Daily Devotion

My Today’s Daily Devotion contains a great and thought provoking message for us/me to be our our authentic self. It gave an example of how God doesn’t look at us in the mirror and wish that he sees someone else. This is powerful. We/I ought to be pursuing God in order for us to be transform by Him because He progressively helps us be the best version of ourselves, someone who we ought to be and  perhaps are already are, just not realized it. We may hinder ourselves from being someone God knows is true and genuine. He calls us to be someone He knows we are.

Today, as I played badminton, there are things I regretted and wish I had done differently. However, I cannot dwelled on the thing regretted because that is leading to negative thought.

Next time, I would definitely be competitive and encouraging. I will be more kind and have compassion. But when it’s game time, I ought to do my best, to set my mind not on beating the other person to pieces, but to play fair and kind. Winning has different form. I can win a game and feel really good about the game or win a game, but not as good. This is where mindset comes in and in any sports, it is a mind game.

How do some players manages to win more than lost. Wow, practice, of course, because practice provide the player sense of confidence. “I have worked really hard and I ought to show what I have been doing all these time to prepare for this match.”

Relating back to the MCAT, practicing it will provide the confidence for the test.

We perform our best when we believe we can accomplish the task–when we believe in ourselves. Sometimes, having someone believing in us contributed to some, however, definitely not all. We just ought to be the one to believe, we can do it.

Well, how to gain it, practice. Seek. Not be lazy. Be kind. Be humble. and have humility.

Today was fun

So, I went to workout today and it was nice. It is good to workout once in awhile because honestly, our body needs it. Even though, I bike to classes, this type of exercise is not intended nor on an interval, which is why intentional workout should be added in routine. The sweat and the feelings while exercising and after exercising is rewarding and I feel good that I had made a decision to excercise. My main purpose for working out  is to get my body energize and my heart pumping, for my system to feel alert and alive, for it to be awake and not lethargic. I did core, sit-up, plank, and some other exercise I do not the name. I mainly workout with my body and I typically don’t use the machine. The only type of exercising machine I used today was the stair ones, which move on an interval. It works similar to an escalator, and I workout by walking up the elevator or in this case the stairs. Working on this machine targeted my calves muscles and my thighs, which I had like for this part of my body to be firm and lean. My motive for working out is to burn fat and calories, as  well as to be leaner and fit. I had like to move easily and gain the agility to stay healthy and feel good about life and my body. I ran for quite sometimes, I did not over exhausted my running because today is my first day and ideally, I had like to keep this up by coming to the gym regularly. I had like my exercise to be fun and not seem like chore or something I had to do because then I will not be likely to come back. I had like to be more punctual, which if I have to be honest, I typically don’t come to the gym regularly. I maintain my weigh by eating nondairy or non-meat, except I do eat seafoods and eggs.

I am not fat or muscular. I am fine, but if I workout more often then I am certain that my stomach would be more lean and tight, which I liked 🙂

Anyway, I also played badminton today at the badminton’s club in the gym, which was fun. I met new people and some I have already seen. One new person I met was named Bryan. I learned that his parents are from Mexico. I guessed he was perhaps Arabic or Indian Asians, however, I was incorrect. He mentioned that the badminton’s club mainly consist of Asians and there is perhaps one white person and I thought that was funny. I didn’t view it in that that way, but now that he mentioned it, it was certainly true.

Anyway, I think Bryan was trying to get to know me better by mentioning if there is any film I had like to see, which I told him honestly that I barely know what’s on air. Plus, I already have a bf. Therefore, it wouldn’t be fair for my bf or for me to proceed.

I am glad that I am reminded to blog again. Blogging certainly is good for my brain and emotion, since this allows me to reflect on thing I enjoyed about my day. For me, this blog acts as my diary. I type a story about my day, what happened and I highly think that this will lead to the appreciation of life, making a better choice and decision, as well as happiness.

It has been awhile…

Honestly, it has been awhile since I write a blog. Many thing obviously had been going on, but perhaps not as significant or trigering enough for me to capture it. Perhaps, it was just me not realizing the hobby that is beautiful and important. By expressing my thought, the process is significant and reflect many characters. Anyway, writing is certainly a way to reflect and relieve, the inner thought and the piece of mind. The beauty of our mind, how it thinks, and act. I know for sure that sometimes, I am not sure why my mind think or assume a certain way. Honestly, I have no idea why I thinks the way I thinks. Perhaps it is rooted in the childhood of how one’s experience shapes the inner thoughts, decisions and processes.

Anyway, today, something significant had happened. Well, a guy said that he thinks I am cute, which is certainly interesting. Honestly, it is certainly intriguing of why we choose to like what we like.

With S., I am not sure to which extent I like him and honestly, I don’t know if the relationship will last. I am not sure if I had find the right one, how am I suppose to know. One minutes, one second, with a blink of an eye? I have been with him for 3 months, well, long enough, however, also not long enough. I like being with him, I do, however, when he came over, I have to confess, I cannot sleep well, which reflects that I am not yet myself, somehow. I don’t know, someone had told me that you know you found the right person when you can fart around them and be your complete self. I am not sure if I can be such with him.

Sometimes, I wonder if the differences in culture, faith, and other factors contributed to my not being able to feel as connected with S. But, I do like him, but to which extent and how do I know for sure. Time? I don’t know if this will last. I am not certain, even though, I wanted to know, however, it is not in my vision, but of God’s. There are things I like about S. and there are also things I am unsure of.

He seems to like me though, however, I am not sure if his maturity and sense matches mine. Perhaps, it doesn’t have to be, I just have to like the other person a whole lot, which I am not sure, if I had ever like anyone a whole lot in the past. I know I like my sister, my mom, and dad, which is mostly normal.

Will I ever going to like someone so much that I can give them anything? Sometimes, I don’t know if I am simply selfish or what, or perhaps I just haven’t found the right person, and why am I doubting myself, my feelings?

I am not sure. Our thoughts are complicated, certainly mine.

One thing for sure is, who will I…. that’s certainly too early to think, perhaps because I am on my period and my hormones are disintegrated, which should all be blamed towards.

Anyway, I cooked today and it was fun. It is relaxing and certainly made me proud.

One thing for sure is that I must look and find my satisfaction in the Word of God and not of man. Since, I have a bf, sometimes, it led me astray in term of where I find my satisfaction. I do not want that to happened because man cannot full-filled me, but only my God cans. He is my fountain. It is important that I seek God above all things, because through Him, all things and everything will be provide.

Okay, so Pradip came into my thought. Now this person named Pradip, certainly interested me. He is an interning guy, especially the way he thinks, interprets, and concludes. I have never met anyone who thinks and analyzes somethings like Pradip. Now this guy is so nice that he sent scholarship information to me. How cool is Pradip. I appreciate him and he is on my mind. Now, this makes me think that I would choose to date or marry someone not because of look or fortune, but of who they are and the quality they possess.

S. is patience with me and simply allow me to do things, he does not criticized me.

This made me question of what do I look for in a guy, this experience taught me something I wouldn’t have known otherwise. It is hard to pinpoint what I look for in a guy, however, I know that I must thrust in the Lord more because if I were to relied on my own thing, I would gone astray close to insanity, but if I were to relied on the Word of God then it is excellency.

I think the reason why I have to see S. to be fulfilled is because he doesn’t satisfy me all throughout, which I am not sure why, but certainly makes sense biblically. However, whenever I am with my parents, I am very much so happy, content, and comfortable.

I am getting very sleepy. I haven’t wash my dishes or shower, and I have to wake up to do my work tomorrow. Goodnight, it has been great to be reminded to write a blog.

To be honest…

I am not sure what I want, I think I know what I want, but then, there are times when my interest switches. I think I wanted to be a doctor, it has pretty much been this career. Maybe my dad place this idea on me as a young child and it has been on my mind ever since. Or maybe I do truly wanted to be a doctor even before he suggested to me. I don’t know.

You know what kind of life I had the idea of wanting to live? A life simply doing what I want, why can’t I just do that then if I lose interest in that one particular thing, then most likely there is something else I wanted to pursue. I hardly met anybody with 2 or 3 jobs. A doctor, but also an architect and an artitst. A doctor and an entrepreneur, who own a business like a little shop. Okay, these type of people do exist, of course. It seems like once you are a doctor, that is most likely your one and only job.

Being an architect has been a dream of mine, since little. I like to build and create thing with my own hand. I thought I wanted to be a surgeon, a general surgeon. One because of the stability—I suppose, the salary, reputation, respect, and credential. The helping aspect also attracts me, a job or I had say career with purpose of healing. It seems like a job that is very much so hands on, which I like.

Now back to being an architecture thing, the job seems really cool as well, building, making model, artistic, but it seems as if there is not a high demand in the market, which I should be smart about…?

I recently dated a guy, but I kept having this thought of lowering our status to being good friend. We first met at a tutoring center, then we met again on the same day at our school movie theater. Then we met again later twice in a different SI session, which is a peer-led classes for physics. I don’t think I like him as my boyfriend. I like him more of a friend and maybe when we started talking, I am just or perhaps may appear to be quite friendly or flirty? So this may gave him the impression of me liking him. I don’t think I like him that way.

Now this made me questioned whether I can actually like someone like that, lol. I don’t know. My friend, Khahn told me that once you find someone you truly like, you will know. I am not sure how that work, honestly. How can you just know with a blink of an eye? I pretty sure now than ever that I wanted to be just friend with him and I think I am going to tell him once he got back from spring break. Seriously, he included many things about the future with me. He talked about traveling, taking pictures together, etc. He is sweet and genuine; a good human-being.

Honestly, I don’t think he like me like that either, but since we’re each other first girlfriend and boyfriend for about 2 weeks that is why both of us may seem to be curious of how this will turn or how this dating thing really works. At this point, if he were to find another girl (beside me) I would be happy for him since he is a nice person. I honestly know that I wanted a friend more than boyfriend and I will let him know that.

Back to life, I don’t know if it is okay. I am sure it is— to live life doing what I love and then switches when I am bore or find something else more interested in doing. I want to live like that. Pick something I want to do, then once I get there, realize that it is not truly what I want then switch to do something else. There is no rule to living. Who set a right or wrong way to live, simply do what you want, yeah? Just do what bring happiness. Can I live like that? Drop out of college to pursue art school or whatever it may be. Live life, have God as my Rock, and do what I pleases that of course align with God’s plan and to rely on His help.

Live life doing what you love and if you find something else you like more then do that. No boundary.

Which is why being kid was fun, we live doing what we love, but we sort of lose that trying to do the thing that fit the standard that isn’t truly our own. Why do we have to lose the fun as an adult, why. We can still do the things that we love, whatever we want that is good that bring us happiness. I am not talking about go to party and being wasted or steal, but good thing that bring us true happiness. Because, really once the party is over, getting that headache, or being caught, the fun in that did not lasted, it quickly ran out—they don’t bring us true happiness.

God wanted to tell me these things. I think I can live life however as long as I have and continue to trust Him. He knows everything.

Now, though, what is it that I want to do? Write a book, learn metal jewelry art, get an A in all my classes? These are my lists so far. Go to the park, sit at a coffee shop doing homework, call my parents, shower, do number 2, wash the dishes, travel, shadow a doctor and sometimes a nurse, a dentist, live life, live life, live life, doing what you love, pursue your dream, living it, making it real, put in the work, be happy doing it.

When you realized your homework isn’t due until Wednesday…

My chemistry online course have 3 homework assignments due 3 times per week, one that is due on Monday morning at 8 am, another on Wednesday morning at 8 am, and the last one on Friday at 8 am, and the cycle repeat the same every week. However, this upcoming week (the week before Spring Break), I realized that I will only have two assignments due on Wednesday and Friday only, instead of the usual three. I have glad, but then I also have physics test on Wednesday that I need to understand.

I am taking 17 credit hours this semester, which is the most hours I have taken in college thus far. It is doable, time management simply have got to be well-organized.

I recently met a guy, which I mentioned in my previous blog. Honestly, it is fun to date. He is my first boyfriend. We have many things in common, which I find that to be quite interesting. We will see how this will go, because this is our only third week dating. We see each other often, 6 out of 7 days a week and we spent about 2+ hours every time we meet. It is fun, but I have to say that my grade definitely has been affected by the occurrence. Why this had happened, I am not sure. I thrust in the Lord, for He is faithful and omniscient. I am not sure what the future holds, however, my God is a great, big God who have the best plan for me, who loves me. I have a great, great God in all my days and nights.

Now, in the beginning when he asked if I would like to go on a date with him. I said “umm… sure,” then the following morning at the church parking lot, I told him inside of his car that I would like to wait. Then the following week, I said “Sure,” that I would be okay to date him. He was happy. I thought I was sure, but I did felt a little nervous to my stomach because there is a part of me that is dealing with the unknown of the future. However, the following day, I met up with my friend and told her about him. She was feeling sketchy about the situation, since we just met. She thought that I was not quite sure what I want and I seemed to be second guessing myself about the dating situation. She also told me not to lead him on. Now, I am not sure why I gave her the impression that I am leading him on. But that certainly made me think whether I want to date S.

Two days later after meeting my friend, I met with another friend from my sorority to talk about dating. I learned many things from her. I learned that it is okay to hold hands and hug. I wanted to make sure that I am obeying God. S. and I laid boundary when we first dated that there should be no kissing until later in the relationship. We both agreed and I was glad he respected the request.

He is a good guy; polite, considered, and responsible. I realized that I liked him. In the beginning, I had no idea why he would want to date me, I questioned him several times, which I was apparently okay with his answers.

In the beginning, I was definitely thought about lowering our dating status to good friend   (after I had already accepted to date him, which I thought about this the next day). I simply gone with it and did not say anything about lowering our status. Part of the reason why I considered lowering our status is because of school and I also wanted to make sure that he truly wanted to date me, for real.

Anyway, so far, I like S. more than the day we first met. I am not sure where this is going, but I know that my God has a good plan. I am also glad that S. believes in Jesus because this factor is definitely important whether or not I would date someone.

So far, dating has been pretty fun. It is definitely a new experience for me and I am still learning. I like to see him and spend time with him. I typically do not spend a lot of time around others. I simply like to just do my thing. I don’t typically like to hangout that much either, but with S., I don’t mind. In fact, I enjoy his company.

Wow, this is certainly fascinating. One thing is that S. is not that complicated. His thinking is pretty much simple. He loves cars and have red hair. He also had his own YouTube channel, which I thought is cool.

Anyway, I am going to end this tonight. It has been fun writing on this page after a while of not posting this blog.

Goodnight and sleep tight. Wake up tomorrow to do your laundry and possibly study and make delicious breakfast!

Tips to Sleeping Better

Mrs. P’s guide’s to having a better sounding sleep. Sleeping should be automatic. For instance, think about the time when you were younger when sleeping was simple. Your younger self often resist trying to go to sleep and rather be doing something else, but regardless of how hard we try to resit going to bed, most of us would have parents who would say something or we simply could not help, but get tired.

The age from puberty and on ward, from my experience, is when sleeping becomes almost not automatic. We lie there unable to have a good, quality sleep. Sleeping should be effortless and simple.

The reason why I am writing this is because of my friend. This goes to him, because I was in his shoe. I went through once or twice inadequate nights where I simply would not and could not fall asleep no matter how hard I tied.

Sleep like other areas of life comes with discipline. Some of us may be going through difficult time that cause us difficultly sleeping while other might simply abuse this natural way of life continuously in the past that lead up to what they are experiencing now, in another word they are experiencing the consequence. I was in that boat. I did not take sleeping routinely or seriously. When I became careless about sleeping I am sending signal to my body, making it works harder and abnormally. When we don’t go to sleep on time, our internal clock just get confused.

Tips that I found to be quite helpful when it comes to having difficulty falling asleep:

  1. Exercise until your felt tired then after exercise stretch so you can relax your muscle because your muscle should be so tensed from the workout. After stretching, go home and if you realized your sweat became sort of dry, shower in the cooler side of temperature (I am talking about cool water) because what you’re trying to do is to get your body temperature low then head to bed. *I typically exercise in the evening.
  2. When you’re getting ready to go to bed, try not to open blue light from your electronic devices because it can trick your brain into thinking that it is the morning time, so no wonder why you can’t fall asleep because your system has been exposed to light, making it wide awake.
  3. Try reading boring books. This tip had helped me sometimes.
  4. Try not to eat anything 2-3 hours before bedtime.
  5. Eliminate soda or any type of caffeine, this tip should be a common knowledge because if you search on web engine, “How to fall asleep” or something along this line, this tip would be at the very top of the list
  6. You MUST try going to bed ONTIME, meaning take commitment into doing this and also waking about at the same time. On-time, means not fluctuating your routine 2 hours later your committed time. Suppose, you know you bedtime is 10-9, then you to bed in that sort of interval and same goes for when you wake up, don’t just sleep-in bed when you are sort of already awake.
  7. You cannot be slothful or in another word lazy. Laziness is the pitfall in accomplishing tasks.

Knowing that it might seems hard in the beginning, but once you made a commitment to yourself, your system (your body) will also recognize this, but you have got to convince them. You may have develop an irregualr routine in the past and your system has conformed to it, now realized that you’re trying to switch your routine, so it will take times for your body to be adjusted.

-Goodluck and pray about anything that is going on to the Lord, he listens.